Can men be victims of domestic violence?

Yes — roughly 1 in 9 men experience severe physical violence by an intimate partner. The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) and ManKind Initiative serve male victims. Stigma is a major barrier, but the legal protections (protective orders, DV charges) are available to men in every state.

What if I'm falsely accused?

Take it seriously even if untrue. Consult a criminal or family law attorney immediately; don't speak to police or the accuser without counsel. Document your whereabouts, witnesses, communications. Most protective orders can be challenged at a full evidentiary hearing within 10–21 days of initial issuance.

How do I get a protective order?

File a petition at your county's family court or civil court — no attorney required. Temporary ex parte orders can issue same-day; a full hearing typically follows within two to three weeks. Court self-help centers and DV advocates help fill out forms at no cost.

Are there shelters for men?

Male-specific DV shelter capacity is limited but exists in some cities (through organizations like Valor, ManKind, and certain state coalitions). Most DV agencies will arrange hotel placement or referral to emergency shelter for male victims when shelter-specific housing isn't available.

Domestic Violence in Oklahoma

13 verified resources.

About Domestic Violence for Fathers

Domestic violence resources for men have grown significantly over the past decade. The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) accepts calls from any gender, and the Stop Abusive and Violent Environments (SAVE) helpline and ManKind Initiative are dedicated to male victims. Every state has a coalition against domestic violence, and most cities have shelters — though male-specific shelter capacity remains limited. Men can obtain protective orders in family court, request supervised visitation, and work with victim advocates attached to local prosecutor offices. For fathers falsely accused of domestic violence during custody disputes, a criminal defense attorney or family law attorney with DV experience is critical. This directory includes national hotlines, state coalitions, men's shelters where available, and protective order resources.

Domestic Violence in Oklahoma

Oklahoma district courts hear family matters in each of its 77 counties. The Oklahoma Child Support Services division operates under DHS. Oklahoma City and Tulsa dominate, with Norman, Broken Arrow, and Edmond rounding out the major cities. Legal Aid Services of Oklahoma and Oklahoma Indian Legal Services provide civil legal aid statewide.

13 Resources

1. Oklahoma Coalition Against Domestic Violence — Free

Statewide coalition connecting survivors and their families to certified domestic violence and sexual assault programs across Oklahoma's 77 counties. Fathers and their children can be referred to the nearest shelter, legal advocate, or counseling program. Call the OKC office on weekdays for referrals or use the website to find local programs. Services from member programs are generally free to survivors.

405-524-0700 · 3815 N Santa Fe Ave #128, Oklahoma City, OK 73118 · Mon-Fri 9am-5pm · Visit Website

2. Domestic Violence Intervention Services – Tulsa — Free

Tulsa area's primary DV and sexual assault services agency providing emergency shelter, legal advocacy, counseling, and 24/7 crisis response. Services are confidential and free for survivors including fathers and their children. Call the 24-hour crisis line for immediate help or intake; walk-ins are accepted at the shelter location. Bring photo ID and important documents for children if possible.

918-585-3163 · PO Box 35725, Tulsa, OK 74153 · 24/7 crisis line

3. Women's Haven – Fort Smith/OK Area — Free

Regional domestic violence shelter serving Arkansas-Oklahoma border communities, including families in LeFlore and Sequoyah counties. Provides emergency shelter, counseling, and advocacy for survivors and their children. The 24/7 crisis line is the fastest way to request help. Services are free and confidential. Bring any identification and documents for children you can safely gather before leaving.

800-332-7233 · 24/7 crisis line · Visit Website

4. ACOG DV Service – OKC Metro — Free

Association of Central Oklahoma Governments coordinates domestic violence emergency shelter and victim support across the OKC metro. Fathers and families seeking shelter, protective order help, or safety planning can call the crisis line 24/7. Services are free and confidential for survivors. When possible, bring photo ID, medications, and children's important documents to shelter intake; safety takes priority over paperwork.

405-917-9922 · 4205 N Lincoln Blvd, Oklahoma City, OK 73105 · 24/7 crisis line · Visit Website

5. SafeNet Services – Enid — Free

Northwest Oklahoma's primary domestic violence agency offering emergency shelter, counseling, legal advocacy, and a 24/7 crisis line for Garfield and surrounding counties. Services are confidential and free for survivors and their children. Fathers and families in danger should call the crisis line any time day or night. Bring photo ID and children's documents if you can safely do so.

580-234-7644 · PO Box 5041, Enid, OK 73702 · 24/7 crisis line · Visit Website

6. Help-in-Crisis – Lawton — Free

Help-in-Crisis provides domestic violence emergency shelter and 24/7 crisis services for Lawton, Fort Sill, and southwest Oklahoma residents, including military families. Programs cover legal advocacy, counseling, and sexual assault support. Call the crisis line any time for immediate help. Services are confidential and free for survivors. Bring any ID and children's important papers if you can gather them safely.

580-355-7575 · PO Box 892, Lawton, OK 73502 · 24/7 crisis line · Visit Website

7. National DV Hotline – Oklahoma — Free

The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides 24/7 confidential support, safety planning, and referrals to Oklahoma shelters, legal advocates, and counseling programs. Fathers experiencing abuse, protecting children, or supporting a partner in crisis can call, chat, or text for help any time. Services are free in English, Spanish, and over 200 languages via interpreter. No identifying information is required.

800-799-7233 · 24/7 · Visit Website

8. Cherokee Nation DV Services — Free

Cherokee Nation's domestic violence program offers culturally specific crisis response, shelter referrals, advocacy, and support for enrolled citizens and families in northeast Oklahoma. Services are free and confidential. Call the 24/7 toll-free number for immediate help and safety planning. Bring tribal citizenship documentation if possible when connecting with services, though safety takes priority over any paperwork.

800-256-0671 · Tahlequah, OK 74464 · 24/7 crisis line

9. Crisis Center of Stillwater — Free

The Wings of Hope Family Crisis Services in Stillwater offers emergency DV shelter, counseling, legal advocacy, and a 24/7 crisis line serving Payne County and surrounding communities. Services are free and confidential for survivors and their children. Fathers and families in danger can call the crisis line any time. Bring photo ID and children's documents if safe to do so.

405-624-3020 · Stillwater, OK 74074 · 24/7 crisis line · Visit Website

10. Call Rape – OKC Sexual Assault Hotline — Free

YWCA of Oklahoma City's 24/7 sexual assault crisis line, providing immediate advocacy, hospital accompaniment, counseling, and support for survivors and their families. Fathers supporting a child or partner after assault can call for guidance and local referrals. Services are free and confidential. Bring photo ID for any in-person appointments at the NW 39th Expressway office when scheduling follow-up services.

405-943-7273 · 2460 NW 39th Expy, Oklahoma City, OK 73112 · 24/7 · Visit Website

11. New Directions – Norman — Free

Provides domestic violence shelter, crisis response, and advocacy services for Cleveland County residents including Norman, Moore, and Noble. The 24/7 crisis line connects survivors and their children with emergency shelter, safety planning, and legal support at no cost. Fathers and families in danger should call any time for immediate help and bring ID and children's documents when possible.

405-701-2500 · Norman, OK 73069 · 24/7 crisis line

12. Marie Detty Youth & Family Services – Lawton — Free

Marie Detty Youth & Family Service Center operates a domestic violence shelter, counseling, and youth programs for Lawton, Fort Sill, and southwest Oklahoma. The 24/7 crisis line connects survivors and their children with immediate shelter, advocacy, and legal support at no cost. Fathers and families in crisis can call any time and bring photo ID and important documents if safe to gather.

580-357-2500 · Lawton, OK 73501 · 24/7 crisis line

13. Project Safe – Tulsa — Free

Project Safe offers transitional housing, case management, and support services for domestic violence survivors and their children in the Tulsa area. Families work toward long-term stability after leaving emergency shelter, with help on housing, employment, and parenting. Call weekdays for intake and eligibility screening. Bring photo ID, children's birth certificates, and any protective orders or court paperwork to appointments.

918-585-3163 · Tulsa, OK 74103 · Mon-Fri 9am-5pm

Domestic Violence — Common Questions

Can men be victims of domestic violence?: Yes — roughly 1 in 9 men experience severe physical violence by an intimate partner. The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) and ManKind Initiative serve male victims. Stigma is a major barrier, but the legal protections (protective orders, DV charges) are available to men in every state.
What if I'm falsely accused?: Take it seriously even if untrue. Consult a criminal or family law attorney immediately; don't speak to police or the accuser without counsel. Document your whereabouts, witnesses, communications. Most protective orders can be challenged at a full evidentiary hearing within 10–21 days of initial issuance.
How do I get a protective order?: File a petition at your county's family court or civil court — no attorney required. Temporary ex parte orders can issue same-day; a full hearing typically follows within two to three weeks. Court self-help centers and DV advocates help fill out forms at no cost.
Are there shelters for men?: Male-specific DV shelter capacity is limited but exists in some cities (through organizations like Valor, ManKind, and certain state coalitions). Most DV agencies will arrange hotel placement or referral to emergency shelter for male victims when shelter-specific housing isn't available.