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About Domestic Violence for Fathers

Domestic violence resources for men have grown significantly over the past decade. The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) accepts calls from any gender, and the Stop Abusive and Violent Environments (SAVE) helpline and ManKind Initiative are dedicated to male victims. Every state has a coalition against domestic violence, and most cities have shelters — though male-specific shelter capacity remains limited. Men can obtain protective orders in family court, request supervised visitation, and work with victim advocates attached to local prosecutor offices. For fathers falsely accused of domestic violence during custody disputes, a criminal defense attorney or family law attorney with DV experience is critical. This directory includes national hotlines, state coalitions, men's shelters where available, and protective order resources.

Domestic Violence in Oregon

Oregon circuit courts handle family law in each of its 27 judicial districts. The Division of Child Support operates under the Department of Justice. Portland, Salem, Eugene, Gresham, and Hillsboro are the largest metros. Legal Aid Services of Oregon is the primary LSC-funded civil legal aid organization statewide.

More Domestic Violence in Oregon

• Oregon Coalition Against Domestic & Sexual Violence — Statewide coalition that connects survivors of domestic and sexual violence to local shelters, crisis lines, and advocacy programs across Or
• Raphael House – Portland — Portland nonprofit offering confidential emergency shelter, advocacy, and transitional support for survivors of domestic violence and their
• Gateway Center for Domestic Violence — One-stop domestic violence resource center in east Portland offering co-located legal assistance, shelter referrals, counseling, and advocac
• Womenspace – Eugene — Lane County nonprofit providing emergency shelter, crisis intervention, safety planning, and advocacy for survivors of domestic violence in
• Mid-Valley Women's Crisis Service – Salem — Marion and Polk County agency offering 24/7 crisis response, emergency shelter, and advocacy for survivors of domestic and sexual violence i
• Community Works – Medford — Southern Oregon nonprofit offering 24/7 crisis response, emergency shelter, counseling, and advocacy for survivors of domestic and sexual vi

Domestic Violence — Common Questions

Can men be victims of domestic violence?

Yes — roughly 1 in 9 men experience severe physical violence by an intimate partner. The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) and ManKind Initiative serve male victims. Stigma is a major barrier, but the legal protections (protective orders, DV charges) are available to men in every state.

What if I'm falsely accused?

Take it seriously even if untrue. Consult a criminal or family law attorney immediately; don't speak to police or the accuser without counsel. Document your whereabouts, witnesses, communications. Most protective orders can be challenged at a full evidentiary hearing within 10–21 days of initial issuance.

How do I get a protective order?

File a petition at your county's family court or civil court — no attorney required. Temporary ex parte orders can issue same-day; a full hearing typically follows within two to three weeks. Court self-help centers and DV advocates help fill out forms at no cost.

Are there shelters for men?

Male-specific DV shelter capacity is limited but exists in some cities (through organizations like Valor, ManKind, and certain state coalitions). Most DV agencies will arrange hotel placement or referral to emergency shelter for male victims when shelter-specific housing isn't available.